In many relationships there comes the moment when you have to make a decision.
The key question for many women who want to get married with the man they are dating is:
Is he ever going to propose? (i.e. in the near future)
Your dilemma is fundamental because on the one hand you enjoy spending time with him (otherwise you wouldn’t want to marry him, right?) but you are scared you’ll give it more time and eventually it won’t happen and you’ll end up broken and wasting precious time on the ‘wrong guy’ (there’s no such a thing really… but that’s for another post).
On the other hand, you don’t want to stress him and scare him off, right?
Here are a few things you need to do before you make a decision
Before anything, make sure you want to be with this guy for the right reasons.
Ask yourself if all of your emotional needs are fulfilled in this relationship.
Write down at least 2 expressions of self-growth that you have both experienced since you started dating. Self-growth is when one becomes a better person. Ask yourself what about him makes you a better person and vice versa.
Make sure he knows what your plans for the future are. If you want to get married by the summer, he should know this. Also if you want to have kids in the next couple of years or planning a relocation, he should know this too.
Define 40 days for focusing on your goals (meditation, prayers, lighting candles for loved ones or righteous ancestors and ask for their guidance and help…)
If by the end of this period, the man you are dating is not making any movement towards asking you to marry him, such as saying ‘I want to get married to you’, buying a ring or introducing you to his parents, I think you have some indication of what he wants in relation to what you want and it’s time to make a decision that will make you progress towards achieving what it is that you want.
Good luck and well done for realising that your time is precious enough to spend it with your true soulmate.
